Style · August 22, 2018

On Writing Love Notes To Ourselves…

Last week I was lucky enough to head across to sunny Ipswich and revisit one of my recent favourite countryside spots, Wilderness Reserve with one of my most loved beauty brands, Elemis.

Hidden away across fields of gold (that’s brown dying grass, FYI- thanks heatwave) and lots of vocal sheep- despite only being my second time here- it felt just as gorgeous as I remember, with everything from the manor, country house and lake being the perfect setup for some late evening sunshine. Plus, is a trip every bad when you’re surrounded by inspiring women? I learnt so much more about the brand that I’m excited to share soon, so watch this space, folks.

On top of that, I got to spend time with some wonderful ladies in the industry, including Carrie– which naturally equates to plenty of girlie chatter and deep, meaningful chats (ahem- Love Island – ahem).

And that’s kind of what I wanted to touch on today, here. On the way down, Carrie and I found ourselves knees deep in the comparison talk- except, instead of looking at others we were looking at ourselves. I wouldn’t normally divulge the inner musings of friends chatting here- but it really did make me think.

As women, I feel like we’re constantly placed in a position whereby we’re constantly striving for different, or better. It’s the whole Love Island spiel of ‘I’m happy, but could I be happier?’ and it’s only when you look at photographs of yourself from summers gone by that you actually think ‘hey, I didn’t look terrible, did I?’ But it’s only after it’s too late that the confidence kicks in, and that’s exactly why I wanted to put it on paper. I’m tired of looking back and wanting to positively bump myself for not embracing myself, or giving myself the self love and boost when I needed it. We’re our own worst critics (even next to the Daily Mail), and I know for myself, I need to do better.

Why are we so cruel to ourselves in the present and forgiving in the future?

So this post is a little celebration of the here and now- the little love note to myself to make sure I don’t take that feeling for granted. I’m by no means a confident person, but one day I may not feel how I do now and I don’t want to constantly be in a state of striving.

I want to be able to enjoy myself now and try and put appearance second- not worry about the sometimes trivial and simply celebrate it now and then again afterwards. Flounce around in a field if you want to- who cares what anyone else thinks? Wear the short dress! Or don’t! Dress without regret and definitely like you’re a struggling poet or part of the Bloomsbury set (see reference points above)- because life is short, florals and good but you are better.


P.S To Liv of last year, wear the bikini- don’t worry about dimply legs, knees or otherwise. They help you swim! Remember when you couldn’t?! You’re lucky. Don’t worry about those black skinny jeans or printed trousers not fitting- you never wore them much anyway- and to Liv of now, soak it all up- wear the things you think you have to wait to wear, because you’re only young once and one day you’ll look back and don’t want to have wasted it worrying, you donut.

(Shirt: C/O H&M, Scarf: C/O H&M, Jeans: & Other Stories, Bag: Clare V, Shoes: Castaner, Earrings: Rock ‘n’ Rose)


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    Neeltje | Thoughts in Style
    August 23, 2018 at 7:09 am

    Loved reading this post and the photos are amazing!

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    August 23, 2018 at 11:24 am

    Beautiful post and so important to remind yourself and others of each love ourselves and not constantly criticise every little thing 🙂

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    August 23, 2018 at 2:00 pm

    This was so beautiful Liv. Definitely something that we all need to keep in mind more often!

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    August 23, 2018 at 2:36 pm

    Beautiful note to self, Liv. Keep inspiring women to love the real them. <3

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    Eloise A
    August 23, 2018 at 4:27 pm

    awh Olivia what a beautiful moving post. You are right, we should practice self-kindness daily and stop being so hard on ourselves.

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    August 23, 2018 at 9:44 pm

    LOVE LOVE LOVE this post! As a generation we really need to practise a bit more self care

    Ellie xx

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    Holly White
    August 24, 2018 at 7:33 am

    I loved this post! I always regret the fact that I worry or care too much about things – I need to remember to just live and GO FOR IT!

    Such a lovely little read! Xxx

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    Anika May
    August 24, 2018 at 11:09 am

    Lovely post, you’re easily one of my fave bloggers!

    Anika |

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    August 24, 2018 at 1:47 pm

    These outfit shots are so dreamy – I love all the flowers! Your words at the end couldn’t be more true or inspiring <3

    G is for Gingers xx

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    August 26, 2018 at 2:47 pm

    I loved reading this – you make such a good point! We really do need to be kinder to our present selves. Somehow the past gets looked at through rose tinted nostalgia glasses, and the future is filled with possibility (which is great!) but we tend to either dislike or seem to rush through the present. And lovely photos, as always. 🙂

    Sneha |

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    September 13, 2018 at 11:20 am

    amazing post and in photos you looking so beautiful

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