As the clock struck midnight on New Year’s Eve, as well as bellowing Three Lions at the top of my lungs with a belly filled with pasta and Celebrations and Jools Holland on in the background- I finally had the feeling of, ‘oh my god- WE’RE GETTING MARRIED THIS YEAR!’
After pushing our wedding back last year, a sudden rush of surreal forthcoming adult marital status rushed over me and everything felt very real. Exciting- absolutely! But seeing as we’ve both been pretty relaxed about everything thus far, in the weeks since New Years Day- I’ve suddenly become very aware of how quickly it will roll around, especially thanks to some weird and wonderful dreams (the weird certainly being nobody receiving invites and not turning up)- but maybe that’s the post Christmas cheese consumption still speaking…
But! For any other May brides out there- do not fret! My best friend kindly gave me the ‘well, you don’t start worrying about Christmas in September, do you?’ chat, and suddenly with a bit of perspective the four months we have feel reasonably lengthy again, for the moment anyway. Last week I clicked on Victoria’s wedding diaries post, and felt inspired to start chatting a little more about my own. Since becoming engaged I have indadvertedly become the nosiest person when it comes to anything marriage related. Give me details please, I WANT THEM ALL.
With the venue, dress, suit and bridesmaids dresses sorted- it does feel like we’re gradually ticking things off. But, the thing with weddings is that you do start thinking about everything (especially as your head hits the pillow too). Novelty things you’ve seen in magazines feel like necessary considerations and suddenly every decision of yours you’ve previously trusted feels questionable- y so irrational?!
The one thing that has helped ease the minor panic that has started to set in, is, surprisingly, reading about other people’s weddings. Rather than it igniting an enormous sense of comparison- it’s been refreshing and actually eliviated pressure to see how other people have defined such a special day, and it not necessarily being about location, budget or how lavish (or not) it’s been. The more ‘real’ weddings I read on brilliant sites like Rock My Wedding (reading Stone Fox Bride has also been amazing), the more I realise that a wedding is about nothing more than you and the person you are marrying (in the most non-selfish way possible). Everything will be perfect because it is yours and what you like. People won’t realise the things that aren’t there- they’ll just appreciate the day for what it is- and that’s absolutely something I’ve been trying to keep in mind when weird cutlery conversations crop up and feel Theresa May Brexit levels of importance (ahem).
So, yes- a little update for you (or a total waffle, you decide). If you’d like to see more wedding style chats do let me know- or, if you have any questions- let me know too! It’s nice to put all my thoughts down in one place and hopefully have a few silly chatty posts to look back on too!